A life away from the Second Life

I was with a boyfriend at the time..we lived together and was very happyI started to more and more play second life and never ever got off ...I was up all night and maybe slept 2 hours cause i wanted to get right back upand play the game...but there was NO telling me I was addicted I was not going to hear it at all...Then my BF started to see I was so in to my computer and I was completely ignoring him..and we started to fight every day...and it just got worse cause i would never get off the computer... Then Oh what happens...Mr in second life makes me feel all better and i fall in lovecause he gave me at the time what my real life BF never could cause I was to busy playing SL... And the next thing i know I am getting a bus ticket to my SL BF...and I am moving 800 miles to be with him...O.o Well that was 3 months of crazy and you never know some oneYOU NEVER KNOW SOME ONE....Truely on the internet.... So When I woke up one day and said oh my god ...WTF are you doing.... I Called my ever loving always forgiveing BF...Who welcomed me back homeunder one term...There is to be no computer in the house and I was ready thento give up online gaming... I went back home he took my face in his hands and said I love you and I forgive you...oh and one thing we have been together nine years and he is nowmy husband who i love every day for saving my life and getting me off the computer Play long enough I dont care what game it is....Your addicted...Step back and ask your self Do you want to be cured of your online addictionThen your not ready and keep on playing cause oneday you maybe able to see in your real lifewhat your online addiction is doing to you... Please dont do what i did...dont let it take every thing awaybefore you relize it has taken all from you Job...Husband....Wife.....Kids.....A real life with friends...doing things in Real life.... I am ready to say Hi my name is Constance and I am a online gaming addict....

In all thy ways trust him

I hate Carolyn. What about their children? Her real family? ugh.

Thanks so much for sharing this video. I watched all the 4 parts and I was mildly entertained and somewhat disgusted of 'Carolyn.' I wonder how many people can actually sit there and laugh while their RL partners and children are becoming increasingly sad, unnoticed and hurt by the day.

I was spending almost 12 hours a day on SL and was very cynical at first. But as time went buy, every moral fiber I had was easily questioned and defeated by the influence of others. In a world where adultery, promiscuous sex and questionable occupations are 'the norm,' it's easy to be swayed by the appeal of the 'forbidden.' On top of that, since SL is virtual and non-tactile, one thinks that every action had very little, if no, repercussions.

After a few months, I got sickened by the superficiality and fakeness (people included) and reverted back to my old beliefs. I still log into SL but I don't spend a huge bulk of my life there anymore, thank God.

I believe it takes more than an ounce of willpower to get over SL addiction. As previously stated, SL addiction can be indicative of bigger RL problems, however, one must take the time to stand a few steps away from SL, make a careful introspection of oneself and most importantly, revisit your old belief system to know what's really important in your life. Luckily for Carolyn, her husband was a saint. But in reality, not everyone is a Lee, if we all behave so recklessly we might lose everything that matters to us, especially those who actually love us.

funny this topic was being discussed here this week ad last night a friend came to me in SL and said they was separating from their spouse. I asked if SL played a part in it and they said they had to admit that yes it did a little. I just sat and shook my head (good thing that was in RL so they didn't see LOL) but needless to say it is sad and unfortunate that people get so deeply involved in SL to the point of ruining things in RL.

So, don't mind if I am a bit nosey here? What exatly happend in sl that lead to this?

But imo, i feel that sl is merely the tip of the iceburg. There could deeper problems beneath

I found a way not to get addicted to second life. I just have to treat it as a medium where I can earn and move my online through exchange. That make me not so emotionally attached to the game

It was very touching about the couple that got married but I got the impression she left her marriage also over the avi in SL and lucky then things worked in RL for them also. He kept referring to a partner too so I had thought 2 marriages or partnerships were broken by that relationship. Sad but they seem to be happy now hopefully the other partners are also.

I watched the 4 parts of the video, it was really touching :/ specially the part where the couple got married, and the poor husband of the cheating wife >_>.

Yes, something like that happened to me when I was addicted to similar stuff..

It's possible to become addicted to any aspect of the internet, not just Second Life. It is worth stating this now and again. If people feel these kind of things coming on a short break could be just what they need.

Wow this was an eye opener to see. I feel so badly for that family it is being torn apart by something that isn't real!

Yes SL can be problematic in RL - one can get addicted easily - is it worth it to lose RL over SL? Only you can make that decision!